Monday, October 13, 2008

Question, always question

I know the purpose of my existence is to make others question their assumptions in this life. I had a child when I was 18, but I was in my second year of college at the time, not high school, and wasn't on welfare, wasn't a drug addict and, most importantly, wasn't a failure. I am in a loving relationship, but am not married. I work in IT, but don't play WOW (but do have a soft spot for Zelda). I live in the OC, but don't have a bit of silicone in my body.

I forget that my life's purpose should apply to me as well.

We had been the poster children for unmarried family values. I work and fund the house, he stays with the kids and cleans it. If his name was Doris, I could cover him on my insurance w/o being married, but alas, it was not. We support same-sex marriage because anyone that wants to should be able to. We just never wanted to.

So, prompted by a $10K tax bill that would be markedly less if we were married (oh, and no stimulus package for us either), we decided to marry. We didn't think it should be a big party. We didn't think it would register on anyone's radar. We thought we'd do it, though, before the CA voters got a chance to deny everyone's right to happiness, though. We thought the process, the ceremony, the location would be fine - nothing fantastic, just fine. After all, it was a marriage for tax purposes. We opted not to include the family - the 25+ people close to our hearts - out of a desire to have those that unquestioningly supported us surround us, and to not inconvenience them all as many are out of state or have their own lives to which to attend.

Instead, our assumptions were blissfully wrong. The weather was fabulous - not too hot, overcast but warm. The people that participated were so very supportive and showed such love and happiness for us. We remain overwhelmed. Those that did not attend are positively supportive. The family that found out pleasantly surprised us with positive support.

I don't know how the rest of the family will react. It doesn't matter, really, because we received affirmation of our love for each other through the love others showed to us. Bliss.

1 comment:

Rose said...

One of the most beautiful weddings I've ever attended! The location, the couple, the children - it was bliss for those of us who witnessed you marrying each other. (In the Catholic church, the priest doesn't "marry" the couple, the couple marries each other.) Long life, long love - and lower tax bills, my friend!